Do you ever seem like you just can’t accomplish things? You ever have trouble reaching your goals? Whether it’s career goals, fitness and nutrition goals, some other set of goals, sometimes our progress can be slow coming or completely stalled. There can be lots of reasons for it. I think one very important thing to pay attention to is our inner circle. Some of us keep the wrong people in our lives. When we’re around negative or defeatist or unmotivated people – people with a sullen outlook – their temperaments and world’s view can rub off onto us over time and jade our outlook. It seldom works the other way around. Our positive way of thinking doesn’t usually mature the mindset of those who think negatively. Our goodness is usually soured by their badness.
The dangerous part is, we may not even realize it. When we think of someone as our friend, it’s not easy to recognize they’re the reason for our lack of progress. After all, they’re our ‘friend’ and they would never do anything to hurt us, right? Well, think again. Sometimes they are the very one’s holding us back. As hard as it can be, sometimes we need to remove certain people from our inner circle in order to move forward. Some of them keep us down where they are, not necessarily a malicious effort on their part to block us. Sometimes it’s just the nature of what happens when we spend a lot of close personal time with them. Maybe there’s something about them that we enjoy, and don’t want to let them go. But on the other hand, there are some people who may do willful and malicious things to hold us back and keep us in yesterday when we are trying to get to tomorrow.
It reminds me of something my third grade teacher, Mrs. Donaldson, would say from time to time. She’d say something like, if you show me the people with whom you spend most of your time, I’ll show you why you are the way that you are. I didn’t understand what she was trying to tell me back then. But now, I get it. People have a strong hold on us. Some of them do things consciously and subconsciously to keep us down. You want to be sure that the people around you are a positive force in your life and empower you and uplift you and encourage you and always give you honesty and integral compassion.
So the next time you find that you’re not where you know you ought to be, don’t beat yourself up for it. Fix it. Do an inventory of the people around you. It might surprise you to see that just maybe, they are the reason you aren’t progressing. Who’s in your circle?