I’m one of those people who doesn’t like having to answer to people for the choices I make, especially those choices that have no bearing on anybody else. I’m referring to the controversy surrounding Tamera Mowery-Housley and her marriage. She has faced criticism from all sides about her marriage to Los Angeles-based Fox News correspondent, Adam Housley, who happens to be Caucasian, and they describe their marriage as a happy one, and they have an adorable little baby boy, Aden.
Tamera, who’s mother is black and father is white, says she didn’t grow up focused on race and ethnicity. In her words, “I didn’t grow up saying, Oh, that’s a white man,” which doesn’t matter anyway. We’ve always seemed to focus on all the wrong things when it comes to love and marriage. We focus on the superficial traits of people, and Tamera’s Caucasian husband is definitely something people shouldn’t be concerned about. They’re happy and that’s all that should matter.
She recently expressed distress on Oprah’s show as she talked about the hate mail, Tweets on Twitter, and statuses on Facebook condemning her interracial marriage even at one point breaking into tears. She went on to explain her open-mindedness about love and relationships, and marriage.
Well, the point of this blog post is, why even explain herself to all the schmucks out there who have something to say about her marriage. It’s really not anybody’s business except hers and Adam’s. Period! I wish she would have said that in response to criticism about her marriage. If she needed a cry, cry in her husband’s arms or with her sister or parents.
Maybe this will be a lesson for the next person. It’s not easy to please people and you certainly don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. Live your life and be happy, and when people don’t like your choices, and bless every last bloody one of them.