You ever been in this situation. You have a problem and as you’re explaining it, the other person is constantly trying to advise you on how to make it better? Or if you’re the person trying to help someone with their problem, all they seem to do is keep talking about the problem that they have without moving toward the resolution? That’s how it is for some folk. They don’t want to fix it. They just want to vent and talk about what’s bothering them all while the other person is trying to tell them how to fix things and bet them better.
At work the other day as part of a leadership series sponsored by Human Resources (if you’ve read other blog posts, you’ll notice that they have a lot of these sessions), they showed this 1:42 video clip to create awareness among managers about how to resolve conflicts in the workplace. In the clip, a woman is explaining to this guy about what she has been facing and dealing with and causing her problems all while the man is trying to point out to her that she has a big nail sticking out of her head. He’s trying to fix her problem, and she’s trying to keep talking about how it’s making her feel.
The gist is, we don’t put ourselves in the plight of the other person often enough. That’s how conflicts often begin. We don’t even realize it until things are ready to explode and we have pure chaos to deal with.
So, take some time to try to routinely look at things with other people in mind. Looking at things from their perspective reflects how closely you’re in tune with your human side. You might see how your relationships improve. For help, check out this video below. I thought it offered some really neat ideas to help get you started — from the training staff at Dale Carnegie Institute: