“It’s not consent if your victims are under the influence of drugs or alcohol — or you try to make them afraid to decline your advances due to the control they believe you have over them.” ~Author Unknown~
The sexual harassment complaint against disgraced the NBC Today Show host Matt Lauer has resurfaced in a new book, titled Catch and Kill, to be released on Tuesday, 15 October 2019. The book highlights the set of facts that led to Lauer’s termination from his position with NBC. I knew without any shadow of a doubt that there had to be a lot of meat to the story. He was NBC’s golden boy, and you know how golden boys tend to walk on water, regardless of their behaviors. But, Lauer was yanked from his job instantly after the allegations against him were made public. That fact right there says a lot.
Here’s how it got started, in case you don’t remember. In November 2017, the walls came tumbling down on Lauer’s head when a female NBC employee complained that she was sexually harassed by him in his hotel room while they were on assignment covering the 2014 Winter Olympics and continued after they returned to New York. The victim was later identified as Brooke Nevils. From reading the complaint, it is much more than a mere sexual harassment incident, in my opinion. Not sure if Lauer was or will be indicted. The statute of limitations hasn’t passed, so it is still possible for him to be charged if he hasn’t been already. Chances are, if the facts in the matter are being detailed in a tell all book rather than in a criminal charging complaint document, he may not face an indictment. But either way, I’m not sure how it would be handled, from a criminological point of view, since the rape occurred in another country. Jurisdiction is always a big factor when it comes to investigating a crime. That would complicate the criminal investigation. Additionally, you might be interested in a state-by-state guide on the statute of limitations on sex crimes.
Lauer claims things didn’t happen the way Nevils says they did. He went on to say, “It is categorically false, ignores the facts and defies common sense. I had an extramarital affair with Brooke Nevils in 2014. It began when she came to my hotel room very late one night in Sochi, Russia. We engaged in a variety of sexual acts. We performed oral sex on each other, we had vaginal sex, and we had anal sex. Each act was mutual and completely consensual.” Nevils is stating that Lauer sexually assaulted her. Due to her extreme intoxication, she was unable to give consent. She stated she declined his advances but he continued anyway.
I’ve addressed the topic of sexual harassment previously. Sexual Harassment and Personal Body Cams, and All Victims Are Not Treated Equally — and sadly, people are victimized way too often, and the worse part is, too many people on the outside looking in will espouse opinions – whey they weren’t even present. Like I said in a previous writing, sometimes people jump behind the perpetrator supporting him when they don’t even have all the facts.
Listen, there may always be disputable facts when there are only two people in a room; however, “No.” means “No.” in any language. That’s the first thing. The second thing is, when you’re on a work trip, don’t do business with your coworkers in a hotel room when it’s only you and one other person. Don’t do it. I have gone on many business trips with colleagues, with peers, superiors, and people that I supervise. I have never worked or fellowshipped in a hotel room with them. Yes, I have gone to dinner with them. We had Happy Hour drinks together. I have gone to the hotel gym and worked out with them. We have even gone out on the town socializing away from the hotel after-hours. But we never set foot in each other’s room. Not ever. Doing so is a recipe for disaster, in my opinion. Don’t do it, especially if one or both of you have been drinking. That’s the best protection against any accusations of misconduct. That way, you won’t have to defend yourself against an accusation you claim didn’t happen, and you won’t have to worry about being victimized. Don’t put yourself in that situation. You’ll thank me later.