Sometimes, the biggest problems we face in life are the result of our thoughts. It’s easy for us to be too myopic, seeing things just one way, and that can affect us and those with whom we interact. I saw that in full effect the other day.
While out to dinner, the server came up to me and offered to bring me a beverage while I continued to look over the menu. I asked for some green tea. The server said they don’t have green tea (as I’m looking at it on the menu staring me right in my eyes), but then proceeded to tell me about their chilled, in-house, standard brewed tea that I could get either sweetened or unsweetened. I said, “Shoot. I wanted a nice hot cup of green tea.” She responded, “Oh yes, we do have a Japanese green tea, and I’ll bring you a cup.”
She wasn’t thinking of hot tea when I asked for green tea. Perhaps it’s my fault. Maybe I should have been more specific at the outset by asking for a cup of hot green tea. But then, I also cannot take responsibility for her thought process. She brought me the tea and it was delicious, had a nice flavor. If I had merely accepted her initial statement that they didn’t have green tea, I might have ended up drinking something else that I may not have enjoyed as much.
Situations like this help me to open my own mind and think more broadly. If we all did that, I think our interactions with one another would be far better.