All Victims Are Not Treated Equally, by Will Saunders

 

There sure have been a lot of people coming forth about harassment incidents and acts of sexual misconduct; some of them took place over several decades. The unsettling thing is, many outsiders  have judged the validity of the incidents based on who the accused person is. That bothers me. A lot. I put myself in the shoes of the victim. It’s hard enough to come forth; but it’s doubly hurtful when there are people who step up in support of the accused, most of whom were not even present when the incident took place. People are supporting the accused based solely on reputation.

For each perpetrator — more or less —  there have been a handful of supporters standing behind them. I get that a person’s reputation and their standing in the community could be sufficient enough grounds to add to or take away from a person’s credibility; reputation can also create reasonable doubt in the minds of the jury members if the case ends up in a criminal or civil court. That’s one reason why it can take such a long time to select the jury panel in some cases. It can take weeks or even months in some instances to get the “right” jury panel. The prosecutor wants jury members who can empathize with the victim. The defense wants jury members who can empathize with the accused. Depending on the particular case, you can have thousands of potential jurors in the pool. To date, the largest jury pool was for the trial of James Holmes in Aurora, Colorado in 2015. The jury pool was 9000 people. He was convicted of multiple counts of murder for killing guests at a movie theater. By comparison, the O.J. Simpson case brought in 1000 potential jurors. He was acquitted of killing his ex-wife Nicole Brown Simpson and her friend Ron Goldman.

The identity of the perpetrator can have a huge impact on the jury selection process, because people have strong feelings of love or hate for them. When their minds are already made up even before they see or hear any evidence, it can be challenging to get the right mix of 12 people (and juror alternates).

I have heard many people speak out for and against Bill Cosby, Matt Lauer, and most surprisingly, R. Kelly, surprising because his alleged victims were minors. In contrast, I have yet to hear anybody speak out to support Steve Harvey Steve Harvey Accused of Sexual Harassment. Some have said his personae is that of someone who likely had done what he was accused of doing. Others have said his book on relationships and intimacy reveals things about the way in which he has treated women in the past, which adds weight to the accusations launched against him. I didn’t read the book myself, so I can’t speak to it. (Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment). But regardless – whether good or bad – I don’t believe a person’s life and past should play a role in believability.

It seems unfair treatment when a victim accuses someone with a “dog” reputation and that victim is immediately believed, but if an alleged abuser/harasser is someone who has a straight-laced background, there is a lot of scrutiny, skepticism, and doubt that the incidents really occurred. Imagine how the victims feel. Even someone trusted and respected can deceive you. The same is true of the victim. You have a victim who is well-respected, will that person be more quickly believed than someone who is of ill repute? Unfortunately, that’s how society functions. Your character and reputation carry a lot of weight, much more than it should. Even a seemingly good guy can be a predator — I suppose they call such folks a sociopath.

What if you were the victim and people said things like, “Nah, I don’t believe it.” How would you feel if your associate Michael had abused you and people were saying, “No, the Michael I know wouldn’t have done anything like that.” I’ve learned that we don’t always know people as well as we may think we do, even the ones closest to us. Just look at Judas. He was one of the 12 disciples, one of Jesus’ closest friends and advisors; he wasn’t the man Jesus thought he was. Judas betrayed him.

As an aside, let me throw this in here. There are instances in which people get falsely accused of heinous acts. Therefore, I can understand people’s hesitance to always believe someone who presents themselves as a victim. Just look at the Tawana Brawley case. She falsely accused some men of assaulting her, raping her. If you don’t know about or can’t remember that case, do a search. Then there was the case of Susan Smith, a Caucasian woman who fabricated a story about a black man carjacking her and ultimately causing the deaths of her children when she in fact was the sole cause of her own children’s death. There are plenty other similar cases of people being falsely blamed for things.

The moral of my post here is, don’t be so quick to condemn someone – or to support someone – before you have all the facts. We talk about the concept of having blind justice, meaning embracing fairness and equity when it comes to vetting out accusations of those funneled through the criminal justice system. That’s the context of how that term surfaced. But it’s funny how we don’t embrace that notion in our day-to-day lives. What a hypocrisy. I’ve found that many people are superb liars. They’re great at it. They may try and twist the truth and have you question your own memory. But don’t get sucked in. Let the facts speak for themselves. Make Lady Justice keep her blindfold on.

 

 
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Everybody Has An Opinion, by Will Saunders

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I recall a popular mantra from my childhood. It went something like, “Opinions are like elbows and assholes; everybody has them.” That’s certainly the truth when it comes to job hunting advice.  There are a variety of ideas and suggestions out there, some of which are contradictory.

One of them that prompted this post is the question about the number of resumes/applications you should submit while job hunting. It varies depending on who you ask. A few weeks ago, I read an article advising applicants to keep applying. Right after you apply to a vacancy, keep looking for a new one and apply. I agree with that. That’s the advice I would give too. Let it be a continual process of what I call SEAP: Search, Evaluate the vacancy, and APply. Everybody makes up acronyms for stuff, so I figured I would too. SEAP, and SEAP again. Repeat. Feel free to quote me if you like.

That makes sense to me. That strategy has been effective for me through the years. Getting a job isn’t like tossing a boomerang. They all aren’t going to immediately fly back at you. The truth is, most won’t fly back. Your resume is going to end up in an HR abyss and only the truly remarkable applicants – well, at least the remarkable resumes that is – will catch the hiring manager’s attention. That’s why, thinking back to my Probability and Statistics class in grad school, your desired outcome becomes more likely (or more probable) the more often you do it. Volume gives you a greater probability that your resume will get to someone who wants to take a closer look at you.

But if you aren’t casting a large enough net, your chances of getting someone to bite goes way down. If you’re lucky you may get a rejection letter or email. I once got a postcard. You probably will never hear from most of them, though.  But keep on aggressively sending out resumes to places where you want to work.

In contrast to that advice, I read a different article today with another viewpoint. Today’s article advised against sending out multiple resumes, claiming it’s a waste of time, since it’ll likely end up in a black hole. In fact, this author suggests you shouldn’t even bother responding to vacancy announcements. Instead, you should target your applications. Target your resume by (1) identifying where you want to work; (2) gathering as much information as you can about the organization and the department within that organization where you want to work; (3) identifying the hiring manager, and send your information to him or her. This method, the author says, is best, much better than sending out your resume to 10 or 16 or 30 organizations in response to vacancy announcements. But that’s just his point of view.

I prefer the blast approach. That’s the one that has worked for me. The one that is the best really does depend on who you ask. But as I scour the literature – (my grad school allows alumni to retain access to its library and large collection of scientific research journals and periodicals) – the consensus seems to be more is better. The first thing you should do after applying to a position is to locate another one for which you are qualified and that interests you then apply: SEAP. Repeat. They don’t call it SEAP – that’s my word – but the strategy seems abundant in the things I have read. If you also want to target your application, let that be a part of your blast strategy and not instead of it. If you still never get any hits to your resume, perhaps it’s the resume that’s the problem. That’s a topic for another day.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Make Your Random Ideas A Reality, by Will Saunders

Back around the year 2000 when I got my first WMATA SmarTrip card, I got a random idea that could have been very profitable for me if I had the business acumen to make it happen then. But alas, here I sit.

Here’s what happened: a coworker either lost her purse or had it stolen; I cannot recall which at this time. Consequently, she also lost her wallet along with her identification and credit cards. I remember thinking how nice it would be to have all your personal information installed on SmarTrip-type technology. That way, you won’t have to carry around all your sensitive items, using only the SmarTrip card to pay for things and identify who you are. My idea also would have worked for law enforcement too; you give the officer your card and your license can come up in their computer. If you should lose it, you only have to get a new SmarTrip card, re-register it, and you’re all good to go. That’s much better than having to remember which cards were in your wallet and having to go through the trouble of calling to cancel each one of them.

But that idea was only a whimsical idea, as I thought little more about it. . . that is until these similar types of systems emerged, like Goggle Pay and Apple Pay. It’s really ingenious. If I had furthered my idea back then, I would singing the song, Easy Street (as I hum the tune to a song of that title from my favorite musical, Annie.)

My confidence level is much better today than it was back then. If I get a good idea like that now, I’ll definitely do something with it.

Meanwhile, this is the Annie song I’d be singing, the best version from the original Broadway cast recording.

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Shopping Fiends, by Will Saunders

Some people are weak when it comes to shopping. I am one of those people. Not as weak as I once was, but still. I’m very weak.

I did some birthday shopping recently for myself. The big day is April 24th – Taurus in the house!!! Two of my regular sites sent me a “Thank You” discount code for a use on a new order: Tastee Treasures and Best Buy.

In addition to the thank you discount, Tastee Treasures carrotted me by offering a 15% discount for a future purchase if I completed a customer satisfaction survey, which I completed. That same site often has specials (i.e., Tuesday special – buy before midnight; March Madness special; special Easter sale, etc). These sites use some good data analytics algorithms, because I got follow-up emails reminding me to use the discounts before their expiration dates. They knew I hadn’t yet used them.

I don’t need much encouragement to shop. I particularly do not need any help when I get free money. I haven’t use those discounts, not yet. I may not ever use them. One thing is certain, I shop at both sites regularly, so they know I won’t need a carrot to lure me to buy. I’ll go back. But the bad thing is, Tastee Treasures tends to sell out of the things I most want. My size is the mean for its main demographic. If you don’t know, Tastee Treasures is to men what Victoria’s Secret is to women. You see men all the time post their selfies wearing their gear. So, I don’t buy Tastee stuff as often as I might buy, as they’re often out of my size. I would complete a survey about that, but the survey they offer me is always about how I like the things I actually bought, not the things I tried to buy but couldn’t.

C’est la vie!  The bad thing in this situation is kind of a good thing, though. Being sold out helps me achieve my goal to shop less frequently.

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Cruising Pregnant, by Will Saunders

Sometimes, things can hit you hard when you first find out about them. But then after you take a moment, step back, and deprogram, you tend to view things differently. I’m speaking about a family that was ejected from a Disney cruise ship over a woman’s pregnancy.

Did you know that if you’re pregnant, cruise lines have specific restrictions that apply to you? Not only are there limitations on how far along in the pregnancy you can be in order to sail, but you may also be required to provide a medical certification that you’re healthy enough to travel. I didn’t know. Did you? The rules vary from one company to the next, and there’s a site with rules of all the major cruise ships.

Evidently, 24 weeks is the common timeframe. That’s what many of the cruise lines stipulate. In this instance, Emily Jackson from Missouri, was 25 weeks pregnant and traveling with her family, including some children, when she got the devastating news that she exceeded the limit.

I’m still a little miffed that the family in this story  was escorted off the ship by an armed officer and a K-9 officer. I wasn’t there and I don’t know whether the family was behaving in an aggressive manner, but it seems that this treatment was a bit extreme, in my opinion. But I’m only a tiny bit miffed. The more I delved into this story, I came to realize the woman was apparently aware of the “pregnancy” rule, because she had the medical certification stating she was okay to travel despite being past the 24th week. She knew yet she’s upset at the cruise company for ejecting her. Maybe she’s one of those people who is used to always getting what they want.

So, while I’m sad about what happened and the way in which the woman and her family was treated, it’s not like it was a surprise. She knew the rules, and she thought she was going to be clever and convince them to let her go anyway by presenting a note from her physician. But no dice. When you try and skirt around established rules that everyone else has to follow and you get burnt, I have no pity for you. I just feel bad for the others traveling with her. Oh well,  This is one additional thing families and single travelers need to consider when planning a cruise.

 

 

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How Do You Do It, by Will Saunders

 That’s a question I often get from people who ask me how I stay motivated to keep up with my health, fitness, and nutrition goals. Let me begin by telling you it’s a challenge – struggle – it’s not always easy. It is truly quite difficult to follow a consistent, structured, healthy eating plan and remain on target. If you really know me, you’ll know I try to plan and organize most things. When it comes to food, it’s hard for everybody.

But I have a few tips and tricks that I like to use, and you may like some of them too. So, here you are:

• Pay attention to and keep track of everything. I happen to use MyFitnessPal, have been using it for about seven years or so, but you can use another method if you choose. Some people I know use the old fashioned methods, such as pen and paper. But do what works for you. I like MyFitnessPal because you can tailor it to your own eating and set your goals for calories, protein, carbs, fiber, etc., and it tells you how you’re doing throughout the day. When you keep track of it, you realize how easy it is to go overboard. If you’re not paying attention, you can quickly rack up hundreds of empty calories. So, track everything, even a 5 calorie stick of gum.

• Plan all of your meals ahead of time. Some people call it meal prep. But whatever you call it, just do it. I know, I know. You’re thinking how that’s easier said than done, right? Well speaking from experience, I agree that it definitely can be easier said than done. But I also know that the reason most things are easier said than done is because we don’t do them often enough. The more we do things, the better we get at doing them — the easier they become. People sometimes laugh at me because I’m always thinking about or talking about food. If you and I are having lunch, it’s not uncommon for me to say something about dinner.  That’s because I like to plan out all my meals and snacks ahead of time. On most days, when I first get up in the morning, I already know what I’ll be eating for the rest of the day, including my between meal snacks. Usually in the morning, if you were connected to me on MyFitnessPal, you’d see I have entered everything for each meal. Sometimes I may alter it, but generally I have it mapped out. If I don’t plan it, I’ll grab the wrong things in a mindless, rote sort of way. You get me? Also, be not deceived. MyFitnessPal is good for tracking your meals and nutrition. Don’t let the name fool you. It isn’t only for fitness.

• Next, keep healthy snacks with you. Raisins, nuts, or grapes are good snacks. One of my favorite snacks is blueberries. I also am into cherry tomatoes.  Just one cup is filled with fiber, iron, niacin, vitamin K and loads of antioxidants. How about that: snacks that are good and good for you. You can’t beat that.

• It’s also important to focus on portion sizes, particularly snacks. I portion out a serving size of various things and keep them in baggies in the fridge or the pantry – or in my desk at work. Here’s another tip: you don’t have to have a full serving in order to be fulfilled. One of my favorite crackers list a serving size as 15 crackers. I usually have half that amount and I’m satisfied. The full serving is 150 calories. By having only half a serving, I free up 75 calories. That may not sound like much, but believe me, calories add up.

• If you really need to visit a vending machine, be careful at what you choose. Nowadays, many vending machines have a section dedicated to healthier items (i.e., the top row, the left side, row B, etc.). Other times, healthier items are dispersed throughout. Look out for those items, and be sure to portion them out.

• Don’t eat as soon as you feel hungry. You won’t pass out from starvation if you hold off for a half hour or so. Drink a cup of water or green tea, do some stretching, or go for a walk. If you eat as soon as you feel hungry, you’re more likely to overeat or eat the wrong things.

• Last but not least, don’t allow friends and family members to derail your progress. I don’t talk about it a lot, so not many people realize this, but I’m a vegetarian. Truth be told, I follow a vegan diet most of the time. I’ve been eating this way since 2004. In the beginning, people weren’t very supportive. They teased me, scoffed and ridiculed me, and if I weren’t a very confident, thick-skinned chap, I might have given up. I’m not advocating for you to take the vegan plunge. But, just be aware if you choose a grilled, boneless, skinless chicken with a garden salad. You might find your friends or family members mock you while they munch on a cheese steak with cheese fries. Those closest to you can be very discouraging or uninspiring. Many people trying to embark on a healthy life have to face the challenge of an unsupportive inner circle on a daily basis. If those in your inner circle are not being supportive, shame on them. When they try to impede your progress and say things to hinder you, try to just let it go – like water off of a duck’s back. It’s up to YOU to follow your plan.

Give these things a try. If they don’t work for you develop your own. The important thing is to find ways to help you succeed and keep achieving your goals. Don’t give up just because you didn’t make it today. So what if you ate three donuts this morning. That doesn’t mean you should just say “never mind” and eat whatever you see the rest of the day. It’s never too late to begin again. It just requires a little effort.

Stealing the Nike slogan, “Just Do It.”

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Spying On You With Permission, by Will Saunders

The concept of privacy is hilarious: it’s a big joke. I wrote on this topic previously in my post titled, Do We Really Have Any Privacy?The funniest part is, most people think they have much more than they’re actually getting. If you’re paying attention, you might notice what I have noticed, and there’s not much you can do about it.

So, check this out. I just did a search on Hilton.com for a trip I’m considering in mid-summer. A few minutes later when I went hang out on Instagram, one of the sponsored ads was for Hilton. I went to log my breakfast on MyFitnessPal, and the banner ad was for Hilton. Same is true for Twitter. I got an unsolicited, sponsored ad in my timeline for Hilton. Additionally, I kid you not, while I was double-checking to ensure I was correctly using ‘a while’ (as opposed to awhile) as I write this blog post – via Dictionary.com, I got a pop-up ad in the header for Hilton. So, I’m convinced this lack of privacy is much larger than most of us realize.

I know we don’t have privacy. If you use a computer, have a smart phone, and are connected technologically in any possible way, you have no privacy and this doesn’t even take into account the hackers who try to infiltrate various systems and steal our data. C’est la vie.

It’s more of a rant rather than a complaint, and it’s not really anybody’s blame or fault. If you ever bother to read the user agreement, terms of service, or whatever it’s called on these individual sites, they clearly indicate they routinely collect and share all sorts of information about us. No shock. But when signing up for an account on these sites, nobody (well most people I surmise), reads the agreements. They just click the accept button. I’m sure the same is true when they send out an update to their agreement. People don’t bother to read it. Do you? I bet you don’t. These sites need to install a positive acceptance feature. By that I mean, it should use data analytics software that requires us to at least scroll through the entire agreement before that accept button appears for us to click. Maybe that way we’ll be more likely to see a word or phrase here or there about how we are giving up our privacy by virtue of the fact we’re using these sites. But from various conversations I’ve held personally and professionally, many people don’t really care.

Here’s the kicker: people get their socks all out of joint when they hear a CNN or MSNBC report about a company that has  collected and shared their information that got hacked. Even if you visit the websites of CNN or MSNBC, they use cookies to track you (Big Brother is always watching). These cookies store information about your visit to the site, whether you came directly by typing in the URL or were linked from another site, what you do while on the site, how long you were there, what stories you click on, which ads caught your attention, and many other things. Sites remember you when you come back too, which is why some sites don’t require you to log in with your userid and password each time.  You can always turn that off via your browser settings, but many sites won’t work correctly – some may even prevent access – if cookies are not enabled. While most terms of service don’t specifically mention cookies, they speak generally about what they collect and how that information is used and shared.

Google, for instance, collects quite a bit of data on you.  Their current agreement stipulates in part, “We collect information about the services that you use and how you use them, like when you watch a video on YouTube, visit a website that uses our advertising services, or view and interact with our ads and content.”  That’s very clear. They even note when you ‘like’ something.

Further down it also states, ” When you use Google services, we may collect and process information about your actual location. We use various technologies to determine location, including IP address, GPS, and other sensors that may, for example, provide Google with information on nearby devices, Wi-Fi access points and cell towers.”

I’m not here to pick on Google. But it goes on to talk about the ways in which they use your info. You can read it on your own if you’re interested:  Google Privacy Statement. The language is very similar to what most sites state in their user agreements.

So, as an FYI, the next time you sign up for an online site or service, take a moment to read the agreement. Most are fairly standard, but you might find some things therein surprising.

 

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Random Musings, by Will Saunders

~~ all that glitters ‘aint gold, and sometimes you’ll find a diamond when you clean off that dirty stone ~~

I’m one of those people who try to see the best in and want the most for and from everybody. The most evil, wretched, and thoughtless people have redeeming qualities. This thinking was solidified for me after reading Tupac Shakur’s book of poetry, The Rose that Grew from Concrete. There are many among us who shine brightly, born out of the storm they lived in for so many years, sometimes decades. So, even when there are reasons not to keep believing in someone, and even when everyone else has washed their hands of them and given up on them, I still go just a little while longer just in case their breakthrough is about to happen. I’m also no fool. I too have a breaking point, and once I’m done, I’m done. When I give up on someone, there’s no turning back. I figure, I give far more than I probably ought to. I’ll keep trying to be there while nobody else is there, so I feel justified in being done forever once I have finally given up trying. After the love, adoration, fondness, and appreciation have all gone, see ya; goodbye; outie; hasta la vista; arrivederci; peace out; and if it were still a thing to say, bye Felicia — or as my departed Auntie Helen would have said, “Don’t let the doorknob hit ya where the good Lord split ya.”

Something recently happened that is a perfect illustration of how I got this way. This individual called me and we chatted a bit this past Saturday afternoon. ‘Sam’ and I talked for a while about this and that when he eventually told me the main reason he had called. He invited me to go with him to a show a friend of his had produced. He said he would get the tickets if I was interested. I really wasn’t interested, because Sam can be so disappointing and is usually not very reliable. He has proven this to me over and over and over again. But I told him I’d go. Unfortunately, when I asked, he didn’t know the name of the show. He also couldn’t remember the date of the show, but said he would text me the flyer the next day. I thought it was kind of odd to invite someone to an event but not know the name or date of that event. In my head, I said, “How in the hell do you call and invite me to go someplace but you don’t know the date and you don’t even know the name of the doggone show?” That’s ludicrous. But whatever. I paid it no more attention and just waited till the next day.

Well, Sunday came and went, but I didn’t hear from him. Monday came and went, but I didn’t hear from him. It is now Saturday, a week later, and I still have yet to hear from him. Okay, I know what some of you may be thinking. I could have called him, right? Well listen. I know who I’m dealing with. I expect very little from Sam, because that’s about all I ever get from him: very little. I often get a lot less than that from him, but I want to give him the benefit of any doubt.

The thing is, Sam knows that although I’m a big homebody, I also am quick to make plans and I’ll be gone out of town or gone to various things around the region for fun and entertainment. I’m going to a show on 31 March. I’m going to another show on 7 April. I’m also going to another one on April 21st. To top off the month, I have plans on April 28th too. I also have plans on May 5th and May 26th. If something else catches my eye, I’ll be jumping on that too. I don’t know when Sam had in mind for us to hang out. But I know him well enough to know not to sit around waiting for him. I also know him well enough not to have high expectations, so I no longer get mad or upset about it.

The only thing that bothers me about it is that Sam isn’t self-aware enough to recognize that he’s the reason why I never expect much from him; in fact, Sam gets mad that people think so little of him, yet he never engages in any acts of self-discovery. Everything is always the problem, fault, and responsibility of everybody else. Oh well, that’s Sam for you.

Most people in life have a Sam they have to deal with sometimes. But I’ll tell you this. I don’t let my Sam hold me back. He’ll be calling soon with some excuse, and I’ll sit there rolling my eyes around, staring off into oblivion – or as he has also done, he may call to say hello as if nothing ever happened. He’s likely to not even bring it up. That’s how Sam can be. And this, my friends, is why, when it comes to Sam, I don’t give a damn.

 

 

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You’re Not as Important as Others: You’re Less Than, by Will Saunders

Well you’re not really less important than others. But that’s what some people would have you believe. A situation at work was a good example of this. Yesterday morning, I was sitting at my desk working on a report. It was a daunting task that involved some statistical computations and required my full, unwavering attention. I was immersed in my project, completely oblivious to any and everything around me, even the busy thoughts in my own head.

In the middle of it, a woman came to me and just started rattling off some things about some her own project, seeking my input and feedback – directing me to a page on our intranet site. So, I told her I was busy and would need to look at it a little later, and I recommend we get together about an hour later. She said that was fine, but she kept on talking about her own project, telling me in words what she wanted to show me on the site.

Even after I said, once again, I was busy and didn’t have time to talk with her, she kept on yapping her mouth off about her project, which evidently was more important than mine. It was about 18 minutes later before she excused herself and left. The entire time, I just sat there staring at her, not really hearing all of her points as in my head, I’m saying to her, “Didn’t you understand me when I told you I was busy?” The old me would have said it aloud. So, I listened and gave her some brief feedback. The best thing about it is, she got what she wanted and I didn’t have to meet up with her later. The downside of it is (downside for her, not for me) I wasn’t able to give it my full attention like I would have given it later had she honored my request.

I am not an advocate of rudeness. Oftentimes – really most of the time – being stern and assertive is about the same thing as being rude. That’s the quickest way to alienate your coworkers. Of course it’s flattering that she stated up front that she needed my expertise and wanted to get my feedback. Maybe she only said that in order to manipulate me into listening to her. People definitely will do that, in case you didn’t know. You usually can see right through it, though.

Then a couple of hours later, a gentleman (and I use the term loosely) came to my desk while I was on a call — anyone could plainly see I had the phone up to my ear engaged in dialogue — and he had the nerve to ask me, “Are you on a call?”  All I could do is give him a blank stare before he trotted off. C’est la vie! As the title of this essay states: Both of those people behaved as if their issue was more important than mine. I suppose they have what I like to call the ‘Queen Bee’ mentality (or the King Bee mentality, for the fellas).

No matter what other people may think, I want you to know you’re just as important as they are — and for some of them, you might even be a little more special. Don’t allow them to make you feel as if you’re less than. You’re more than enough.

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Dang, Someone is Always Watching, by Will Saunders

I’m often reminded how much I influence others. It’s good inspiration for me, because I’m often second guessing myself or I don’t think my success or progress or progress is as great as I think it is or want it to be. That’s especially true when it comes to health, fitness, and nutrition goals.
     Yes, I am usually dedicated and stick to my plan. I’m mostly a vegan eater. Many of you know I strive to be a vegan eater, and I succeed about 90% of the time. But sometimes I snack on too much of the wrong things and if I have a spirit — which is usually Kendal Jackson Merlot, I tend to snack even more than I usually do. Lord knows if I didn’t maintain regular physical activity, I’d have ’swole up immensely, and not in a good way. But for the people who are watching, in spite of faltering a lot the past few months, I’m still apparently a few steps ahead of one of my coworkers who told me how much of an inspiration I am to her. She told me this on Tuesday, February 13th. Ironically, a different person asked me about Lent and if I had thought of sacrifices I would be making this season.
     Well, I realized it would be no better time to re-commit my dietary focus than now. So, I’m back on my wagon. I got back on it about a month ago, and fell off again, but this last time I only fell a little; however, I’m back on in full effect now. I am regularly tracking my nutrition and fitness progress daily via MyFitnessPal instead of entering random numbers just to keep my account active like I had been doing. I’m also cutting out Facebook for Lent, a huge obsession of mine. I deleted the app so I won’t be tempted.
A year and a half ago, I was doing well, logging consistently for as many as 538 days. Then I fell off. After a couple of months I got back on and I’m now at 294 consecutive days of logging in. I got re-energized again by my co-worker’s interest in my efforts. I wrote about this back then when a fellow Metro train rider mentioned how he noticed the progress I had made. I wrote a post titled, You never know who is watching, in which I articulated many of these same points. I also wrote about it in Health and Fitness Failure: New Beginnings.
     It is like I have long believed.Life is really cyclical. We go in and out of good and bad phases, and it’s up to us to kick ourselves into gear. I also am convinced you’re always being watched, whether you’re doing good or bad.
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